So this is a new series i wish to inculcate once in a while.. i am a big fan of communication through letters.. & there are so many words & emotions left unsaid.. which i wish to convey through these letters.. so my first letter is a letter from a father to his future son-in-law.. 🙂 this one has an uproar of emotions… I hope this new series help me express more. 🙂 happy reading.
Today is a significant day of my life. Today is the day I dreaded the most. Today I am giving you a part of my existence… today I am giving you my ode to happiness… today I am giving you my daughter.
From tomorrow I will not be the only man in her life..! This inexorable moment gives me tears of both joy & desolation… I am happy for a new chapter in her life, at the same time the pain of separation dooms me..!
I still remember the moment I held her in my arms for the first time… She was a little delicate angel gazing at the world she just entered. At that time her squeals was the most melodious sound in the world. I felt accomplished holding her. The palpable sense of joy was hard to describe in words.
The day she uttered her first word, the day she called me ‘papa’ for the first time, the day she started crawling.. is still afresh in my memory. Her smile made the worst of my days bearable. Everyday when i returned from work, I used to take her for walks.. Holding her small hands made me feel invincible. She used to gaze at those stars and ask me with awe and wonder “papa, can we touch those stars? Can you get me one?”…Her innocence would fill my heart. I saw my world through her little inquisitive eyes.
Son, don’t get me wrong, but I raised my daughter a little differently. I never raised my voice or shouted while talking to her. I never tried to impose my views on her. I just tried to give her a perspective & left everything on her discretion. Her conscience is her own.. And I choose to believe in her views. I taught her to have her own say in everything that affects her even in slightest way. I just taught her to be independent.
I was never opposed to her having guy friends or her coming home at the wee hours. I never questioned her judgment on the dresses she wore – she is an independent woman – she can decide on her own. Even at the time she wanted to go to a university thousands of miles away from home, I’d let her go… No matter how much it pained me. I had complete faith in her. Complete trust.
Son these are very little things.. I raised her differently in many other ways too. She might not be a perfect cook or a perfect home maker. Please don’t judge her if she cannot cook a perfect meal. Just appreciate the effort she has put in & with time she’ll reach perfection. Son remember she has the same work load as you… she has her own ambitions, aspirations & zeal to work for them just like you. But knowing my daughter, I know she will never complain. She will do the laundry, clean the houses, take care of your pet. She is going to own everything you own. But I request you to not take her for granted. Help her with the work just to show how much you care for her. She has the capacity to pour in every effort & compassion. She will help you with the finances. Help you with your professional life. I know & trust her sense of judgement of situations & people. I request you to listen to her opinion in all big & small matters. I implore you to let her speak. Son, she might become moody at times & might crave for your attention.. Please don’t be vexed and handle her with affection. Trust ne that’s all she needs.
She is my priceless possession & if I had a choice, I would never give her away. My daughter is lucky to have found you-the man of her dreams. And I am sure you are a very good man. Son as my daughter chooses you & leave behind everything.. I trust her judgment. Please take care of her as I did. Let her be herself even after she becomes yours.
Today is the Happiest & Saddest day of my life….. Today I give you my daughter.